On Coming Home to the Land of Fear

On Coming Home to the Land of Fear - America Travel

I’m tired you guys. Exhausted might be a better word. I try my best to spread positivity on this blog and to focus on the good, but sometimes, sometimes, I have to be honest and talk about the negativity too.

The America I left 3 years ago, is not the same one I came back to last March. Perhaps I was blinded by my love for my country, never having spent a decent amount of time away from it previously.

I know this was not a sudden change, it’s something that has been building throughout the decades, probably, to be honest, since America was born. But the America I came back to last March, the one I’ve been living in for the past year and a half is unrecognizable to me now.

I was up until 2am last night researching and reading about the recent shootings of Alton Sterling and Philando Castile. As I continued on in my internet scrolling, I got on to reading more about the Stanford rape case. I read about violence upon violence upon violence for a good 4 hours.

My heart was beating so fast from anger, sadness, and fear by this point that I had to tear myself away from the words on the screen. I had to tear myself away from the videos of black men bleeding out after being shot by police. I had to tear myself away from the heart-wrenching letter the victim read to her rapist in court. I had to focus on something completely different, uplifting, light, before I could calm my mind to go to sleep.

This is not the America I remember. I hear about a new shooting at least every other week if not every week these days. The political sides have become so polarized that even our news is not really news anymore. Fox News blatantly lies to your face every day of the week, MSNBC puts a liberal spin on their stories. There’s not an American news channel I trust anymore, the media here continues to do what it does best, in conjunction with our politicians – it spreads fear and hate for the unknown.

I know this and yet even I can feel the fear creeping in with each day I spend in this country. We’re brainwashed to fear everything. Brainwashed to the point that even our citizens can successfully argue to keep fully automatic weapons loaded and concealed with them when they’re out and about – to protect themselves against assailants, the government, a rabid bear that walks into Walmart, you name it.

We have become so polarized that even news stories that have nothing to do with politics become highly political in online message boards. People call each other “libtards” and “repugnantcans”, like we’re in middle school again and we use names to make the other party feel bad because we don’t know how to have a thoughtful discourse.

People say, “it’s just because you came back in an election year, it’s always bad in election years,” and to them I say, I don’t think it’s that simple. It doesn’t just have to do with it being an election year (although that has brought out its fair share of hate as well – don’t even get me started on Mr. Trump over there).

Our fellow citizens, whether they’re white, black, hispanic, asian, or arab, they’re dying. They’re dying every single day in this country, mostly due to senseless violence. How is there not something wrong with that? How can that not be enough to set aside stubborn differences and come together to make real change?

How can so many people just give up and pessimistically say that nothing is ever going to change, America is too stuck in its ways. Or, “the libtards are just trying to take away our guns” or “the repugnantcans are all idiots that only use logic from Fox News, I can’t argue with that.”

How can America be so stuck in its traditions, of what makes us “AMURICAN” that more people can’t see the bigger picture? People are DYING left right and center because of this fear of the unknown, because of racism, xenophobia, homophobia.

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But it’s a cycle that continues to repeat itself. Each night the individual news channels come together and spew hate and fear. The politicians speak at press conferences telling us why we should be afraid of ISIS, or muslims, or the new scapegoat that we should fear. This country is not run on being the land of the free, the land of understanding and acceptance, the land of rights and freedoms, it has become the land of fear.

And it breaks my heart, it makes my head spin, it makes me feel helpless, which is exactly how this cycle keeps repeating itself. At times I just want to go off to a deserted little shack on an island with no internet, no news channels, no politicians, just to find some peace of mind.

The amount of hate I’ve witnessed in the past year is immeasurable. The lack of understanding from both sides of any argument brought up in this country is astounding.

I can only hope that more positive things will start to outweigh the bad, that there will be more openness and change. I am happy that I’ve been able to see that kind of slow change in this country in the past few years, even though it may be overshadowed sometimes.

There was the affirmation of same-sex marriage in the supreme court, the fact that climate change is being put into the forefront of discussions now, the mainstream acceptance of transgender people, new relations and progress with Cuba – a country that has been closed to America since I’ve been alive. But this is just touching the surface. What this country needs today is even more progress, more change, and more understanding.

I hope that we as a people can eventually get off our high horses and actually listen to each other. I hope that one day it won’t be ingrained in our culture to perpetually fear people of color, and thus act out according to that fear. I want there to be a serious discussion of rape culture in this country, of white privilege, of law enforcement, lawyers, and judges doing their jobs and not allowing bias to seep into the cracks.

I want more people to travel, to see the world and the different cultural discussions, issues, and the good that is actually happening out there. I want everyone to have friends of all colors, sexuality, and gender so that we can stop with the us vs. them mentality.

I want the hate to stop so we can actually start healing. We only tear bigger holes into ourselves with each shooting, rape, and hate crime that happens. I’m ready for us to work towards something, not stay in this repeating cycle that leads to nowhere but sadness.

I hope that one day I can see those dreams come true and join in the fight to make them a reality. To see this country come out of the darkness and to let a little light back in.

So, today, even if you don’t think it will change anything, even if you don’t consider yourself an activist or outspoken, it doesn’t matter. Try to spread a little love and lightness, a little bit each day.

Think before pressing enter on Facebook or that BuzzFeed message board, think before sending that chirpy meme to your friends (no matter how funny or true you may think it to be), and ask yourself if you’re a part of the problem.

Are you spreading hate today? Even if it’s with people who think the same way you do, if you’re putting down the other side (whether that be in terms of politics, race, religion, or gender), you’re adding to the divide. Sometimes we don’t even realize it because we believe to be on the right side of an argument, I know that feeling well too.

All I ask is that we take a moment to stop spinning and at least try to understand each other, to think before acting or arguing, to think for ourselves, and to actually start listening to one another. Although seemingly small in the scheme of things, I think this will be the key to eventually opening up a thoughtful discussion on how to change where we’re at in this country.

I’m tired of feeling sad and angry – how about you?

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What are your thoughts on America in 2016? How can we change the present discourse of fear and hate that is somehow normal these days?

Mimi McFadden
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14 Responses

  1. This was such a powerful read and speaks to so much of what I’ve been feeling. I could pull so many lines from here as a headline to this article. I’m eager to share it, I think it’s a very worth while read, and very different from what most people are sharing online about these turbulent times. I’ve been trying not to say too much. There’s so many people talking and not enough listening, but you said it so much better than I could have!! Can’t thank you enough for this post!

    1. Thanks so much for reading, Melinda. There definitely needs to be a change in the attitude from all sides of this country, more listening and less blind hate. I just really want to see people being decent humans to each other again, to go back to respecting each other and paying it forward with kindness. <3

  2. I’ve been disheartened by events going on here in Australia too. I always try my best to be positive, but terrible things keep on happening, I’m just not sure how much of a fan I am in the world we live in anymore. 🙁


    1. I can completely understand and relate Christie, there is so much negativity out in the world today. But.. that’s why we need to work on spreading love and kindness the only ways we know how in our every day life. Small actions could have a much larger impact if everyone was to work towards kindness. 🙂

  3. Beautiful post. It hasn’t been a couple days and unfortunately the political climate only adds fuel to this fire. I felt like I was in a daze last week, stuck in a cycle of sadness, anger and despair. I don’t know what the answer is or how bring about the change we need but I’m tired of this roller coaster ride. Will try to put more positivity into the world hopefully that can help to combat this nonsense.

    1. Thank you Kwame. I’m tired of the cycle of violence I’ve seen in this country too, I really do hope we can start to see some serious change..and soon. One of the hardest things is to spread kindness in the face of so much hate, but I also think it can be the most powerful way to dissipate the nonsense.

  4. “If we are to live together in peace, we must come to know each other better.” ~ Lyndon Johnson.

    So travel to the far ends of this earth, share love and light wherever you go and know that peace and justice are two sides of the same coin. Namaste.

    1. Very true Cheryl! Lyndon was a smart man. I really think that all of this hate and political fear mongering simply comes from not truly knowing (or even trying to get to know) the “other” the “them” in the us vs. them mentality.

      “Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

    1. Thanks Chelsea! It is a very disheartening world in the daily news we live in today, but I think the important thing is to not let it become (or continue to be) the norm, where we don’t bat an eye at the amount of violence we see so commonly these days. That we don’t lose hope in the amount of hate we have to get through. Thanks for sharing your post – great read!

  5. Thanks for your post, you are inspiring. I left to to travel for a year & beyond in May. Before I left the violence, hate & fear was rampant. I didn’t intentionally watch the news, but when I sat with my mom I’d see a bit of it & the news was about violence, conflict or another sad story.
    I agree it’s time for a change, our country, our world & our people need a great shift. We are on this planet together, we are one race, the human race. We need to let go of our negative beliefs resulting from our narrow personal perspective of our personal life history and instead focus on our oneness on this planet. I want to create a better, kinder and more loving world for my daughter and future generations. I join you and intend to do my part to spread love, light & kindness where ever I go.

    1. Thanks so much Patty. That’s the key and you hit the nail on the head – we are ONE race. Stubbornness, hate, and misinformation is truly what continues to divide this country and I hope to see more people letting go of those strong held beliefs that only bring negativity and fear. Thanks for being so inspiring as well Patty, here’s to love, light & kindness, of staying in the present, and not continuing to carry the hate but instead spreading a better understanding wherever we go!

  6. Yes I often get so disheartened by the world we live in today. The news here in the US continues to be horrible yet the more I’ve traveled and worked on social good/human rights issues, I admit and have to remind myself how much worse I’ve seen and written about. I remind myself that as a women at least I am able to go to school, get an education, marry who I want, when I want and not be physically mutilated like in so many countries. Deposits being so sad about violence, hatred and intolerance I remind masked of all the good I still can do to make the world a better a place. I can travel, be free, and make a difference. So that is my two cents. You are young and have a powerful voice. So much amazing things you can do! Put your sadness into a force of change! I have met so many inspiring people who are!

    1. That’s very true Nicole and something to keep in mind, but even though we may have it good compared to a vast majority of the world in terms of human rights and poverty, our country still has a serious attitude and fear problem that will only continue to be our downfall if we don’t address it now. I think you’re completely right, however, in focusing on the good and the positivity – and you’re right that there are plenty of ways to make a difference, especially through travel. I hope to continue to do that through my travels and to focus on kindness and in making thoughtful changes, while still being able to call out the hate when I see it so that it doesn’t continue to be the norm in this country.

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